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Three books new to me. All are fantasies, two are series.

Books Received, November 15 to November 21, 2025

Poll #33866 Books Received, November 15 to November 21, 2025
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Which of these upcoming books look interesting?

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Mother of Death and Dawn by Carissa Broadbent (March 2026)
3 (8.6%)

Tides of Fortune by Lauryn Hamilton Murray (June 2026)
1 (2.9%)

Everybody’s Perfect by Jo Walton (June 2026)
25 (71.4%)

Some other option (see comments)
0 (0.0%)

Cats!
26 (74.3%)

Music and ancestry

2025-11-22 11:03[personal profile] mtbc
mtbc: maze G (black-magenta)
This morning, I got out of the bedroom at a leisurely pace. I had a dream in which a security camera had caught Claudia Winkleman (British celebrity) fast asleep in a chair at some garden show she was helping to present, which caused some amusement among viewers of the footage, then I awoke and took a bath. After toweling off, I usually lie on the bed a little to finish drying. During this, I indulged in having Alexa play me David Bowie's Life on Mars, Ultravox's Vienna, ELO's Twilight (from back when we had concept albums), and Elton John's Nikita which, together with the The Rocky Horror Show earworms I've had lately, probably ages me well.

Another thing that probably ages me is that, when I was thinking about the results of our dog L.'s breed test, in interpreting the percentages in terms of ancestry, of course I was thinking in powers of two which comes quite naturally to those of us who grew up with early microcomputers. I suppose that people in the Antebellum South would be good at such arithmetic too but I am not that old. Anyhow, L. is indeed largely Shih Tzu with, quite reasonably, a bit of Lhasa Apso among great grandparents. I was pleased to read that L. is not at risk of any of the medical conditions that they tested for.
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I would definitely found an SF magazine.

Most mags struggle with handling submissions but I had a moment of insight: all I need to do is tell writers to send me _good_ stories. Their crap, they can submit elsewhere. Bang! Workload down by 99%.

new glasses

2025-11-21 19:21[personal profile] redbird
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I picked up my new glasses today, and I like them. I am seeing better than with the old glasses, either because it's a slightly different prescription, because the old pair had gotten scratched, or some combination.

A few hours later, the lenses have gotten smudged, so I am going to clean them after posting this.

I stopped on the way home at New City Microcreamery, which now has a branch in Arlington Center, half a block from the optician's. After tasting a few flavors, I bought a pint of dairy cinnamon ice cream for myself, and a pint of vegan peanut butter for [personal profile] adrian_turtle, at her request.
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 Sorry, everybody.

It's actually been a really big week for me, being my birthday week, but I seem to have completely forgotten to update you all on any of it. I have about fifteen minutes before I need to head out, so let's see what I can tell you about in that amount of time.

I turned 58 on Tuesday. 

I have never been one of those people who hates birthdays or the idea of growing older. I love every single birthday (with the sole exception of the one that I spent driving back from Indiana.) But, generally, I am all about starting to celebrate my birthday as soon as possible and, this year, I started on November 3 (my birthday is the 18th). One of the things that I very expressly asked my wife for was time to game. Normally we fuss a bit because, if I had my way, I'd be running D&D every single weekend that my players was available.  So, for November, I've played D&D every single weekend so far--which has been tremendous fun. It's come to a close, however, as the Thanksgiving prep is in full swing. 

Shawn always takes my birthday off work. She also almost always takes her own birthday off, too, as did I when I was working. In fact one of the funniest conversations I ever had with a boss was when I was working as a itenerent library page for Ramsey County Library. My boss at the time, Lee Ann, was a fellow Scorpio. She also used to call all the pages to see where and when they'd be available. The 18th was floated for me and I just said, "Sorry, that's my birthday." She seemed stunned. She said, "Well, tomorrow is my birthday and I'm working," and I said, "That sounds sad. You should take your birthday off." Apparently, this is not something that regularly occurs to adults. Lee Ann seemed very stunned and afronted. But, I've long embraced the fact that I'm not a normal adult.

Side story, but part of birthday week for me has been getting to go get fancy coffee in the mornings. I discovered that one of the barista at Claddaugh really, really loves rocks. So, I've started carrying rocks in my pockets again just to show her the ones I've collected. Yesterday, I pulled out the Thomsonsite that I have from our trips to Bearskin and showed it off. Other people were interested so a bunch of adults started oohing and ahhing over cool rocks. And it reminded me of that meme that goes around with the guy who is sad because the worst part of being an adult is that no one ever (shows you a cool rock, is one version, or) asks you your favorite dinosaur. So, we very quickly all started sharing our favorite dinosaurs, as well. Take that, adulthood!  You can't diminish my love for cool rocks and dinosaurs!  NEVER GO QUIETLY INTO THE LONG DARK! LOVE ROCKS! LOVE DINOSAURS!

The other thing I love to do is go out to eat. I am especially fond of breakfast or brunch out. I love me a good greasy spoon, too. I have had my family take me out to the Egg & I, but this year we went to Day by Day. which is slightly less grease and more hippy/recovery community. I pushed out the boat (and as Shawn has been adding lately, and got into it! Because you don't want to "push out the boat" and then "miss the boat") and had their buscuits and gravy. Not a safe meal for a 58 year old, but look at me, living on the edge!  Do I know how to party, or what?

We also went out for dinner, which, in our family, is borders on insanity. Like, we were seriously living it up. Dinner was Taste of India out in Maplewood, a place that I've been going to for my birthday for decades. 

The only pall on the day was the fact that I forgot my cell phone at home and so I missed the MONARCA text about the Federal action in Midway. It's probably just as well. Pepper spray got deployed and no one wants to be pepper sprayed for their birthday. (I mean, maybe [personal profile] sabotabby does?) I did feel bad for missing it as my friends [personal profile] naomikritzer and [personal profile] resolute were there doing the good work.

So that's me? How's you?
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Segueing on from eunuchs and the notion of them guarding harems, let's talk about contexts in which people tend to get separated on the basis of sex. Or gender -- but in the types of contexts were this segregation happens, the concern is often very specifically about bodies, and what they're carrying downstairs. When biological sex and social gender do not align, the dynamics get more complicated, as we're seeing in the present day.

Some kinds of sex segregation are situational, being focused on a specific event. Rites of passage in certain types of society are often focused on initiating boys into the company of men and girls into the company of women; it therefore makes sense that the other group shouldn't be present. Childbirth is another event that may be restricted only to women, with men having their own traditions to perform elsewhere. Even a girls' slumber party may be off-limits to boys, any such intruders being driven away with shrieks of outrage and maybe some thrown pillows. But once that event is over, the space opens up again; the living room where the slumber party was held is not forbidden to men forevermore.

Where the separation is more about the space than a specific event, it's most likely to happen in contexts that are both bodily and communal. Locker rooms and bathing facilities, for example, involve individuals stripping down in the company of other people, so we tend to have separate ones for men and women. The communal part is particularly important here: nobody thinks twice about the fact that toilets at home or on airplanes are all-gender by default, because they're also single-occupancy. It's only when the space is shared that hackles rise over a lack of segregation -- though proponents point out that all-gender communal restrooms tend to be built in a way that offers more privacy to everybody, and that's a good thing.

For many of us, it probably makes sense that anything which involves baring intimate parts of the body should be veiled from the opposite sex, outside special circumstances. But the "bodily" part of the above equation also extends in directions that may be less obvious to my average reader . . . like eating. We think nothing of men and women eating together, even in public! But in other places and times, women have taken their meals separately from men, even within the walls of their own homes -- and a restaurant is right out. Regency England considered it barely acceptable for a woman of quality to dine in a private room at a commercial establishment, especially if she was traveling, but out in public? That was scandalous. (The French, ever risqué, thought it was just fine.)

The other broad category in which segregation may rear its head is religious contexts. Mosques very commonly have separate sections for men and women, for the very practical reason than Muslim prayer involves kneeling and bowing one's head to the ground, which leads to a lot of time with the rear end of the person ahead of you being right in front of your face. In mixed contexts, it's easy to see how this can get socially awkward and may distract people from the religious matters that should be their focus. Orthodox and some Conservative Jewish synagogues likewise maintain separate sections for men and women, again for reasons of modesty and improved attention to God.

Depending on the place in question, this division can be accomplished in a number of ways. The different sections can be marked by anything from segregated doors to a rope to a low wall to a curtain, depending on the degree of privacy required. This may run laterally through the space, so that the women are (usually) behind the men, or it may run axially, placing them side-by-side -- the latter carrying a great symbolic connotation of equality, as it allows both sexes to be equally close to the front. Or the separation may be greater, with women in a balcony (echoed by the Women's Gallery that used to allow English ladies to observe the doings of a wholly masculine Parliament), in a different room, or even in another building entirely, one constructed for their sole use.

Of course, when we think of sex segregation, we think above all of purdah -- using that as a generalized term for the seclusion of women from public view, via clothing, architecture, and behavior, in all contexts rather than only specific ones. On the sartorial end, veils can hide a woman's hair, face, or even eyes from view, while long skirts, long sleeves, and perhaps gloves conceal everything else, depending on the degree of concealment required. On the architectural end, pierced wooden screens serve a dual purpose: environmentally, they permit some air circulation while blocking most light, and socially, they prevent outsiders from easily seeing into the house, where the women are.

In English we tend to equate the word "harem" with a man's collection of wives and concubines, but properly speaking, it's the private part of the house, which by the principle of metonymy came to also indicate the women there. Male outsiders and servants may not enter; even male relatives may be restricted, with only the closest or those under the age of puberty allowed across the threshold. Meanwhile, the women themselves often face restrictions on their ability to leave -- which, in extreme cases (like the wives and concubines of a ruler), might extend as far as prohibiting that entirely.

To be clear, although we associate this with the Muslim world, and perhaps with India, that's not its only context. Noble and royal women in East Asian countries, for example, might only converse with men from behind a screen, because it was improper for them to be viewed directly. Early modern Spanish writings are full of the idea that women should stay within their houses and not go out, only grudgingly allowing for things like church attendance -- indeed, Europe more broadly agreed that women should not be out in public any more than strictly necessary. Where there is patriarchy, there will be a desire to control the visibility, movements, and activities of women.

At least for elite women. Because let's be clear: this kind of segregation is ultimately a luxury, and therefore not equally affordable by all classes. Somebody has to go out for food, water, and other necessities, and that work can't all be done by men, because they're busy with their own jobs. The private seclusion of upper-class women relies on the public activities of slaves or paid servants, many of whom will be female. Meanwhile, households living closer to the poverty line can't afford that kind of help; their women might have to work at agricultural or commercial tasks just to make ends meet. They may still be barred from certain contexts, forbidden to attend the theatre or take a meal in a tavern, and they may be required to observe strict forms of modesty while they're out and about, but they can't be hidden away entirely.

Ultimately, then, while limited and context-dependent forms of sex segregation can be very commonplace, the blanket sort indicated by the term purdah is an expression not only of gender ideology but of economics. It can only occur where there is the wealth to support it, along with the will to enforce it.

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(originally posted at Swan Tower: https://is.gd/ZQlmSn)
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I did about 15 minutes of "work" on plotting the most OC/adding stuff type fic I've ever worked on.

Back before COVID hit everyone, I had gotten really passionately into the idea of this fic about my Fallout New Vegas player character and a few of the other characters.

The initial groundwork I did got written at the beginning of 2020 before I was out of a job. It was going well.

Then, everything in the world changed in ways that one couldn't really brace for, even knowing it was coming.

My life on the other side was never really the same, either. My mom died that year but not from COVID.

Anyway, I have occasionally poked with a stick the idea of trying to finish that fic. I recently heard a clip from Jason Pargin that made me realize why I was stuck after writing the four prologue chapters.

However, every time I start to poke it with a stick, I just wonder if I am really ready to be vulnerable enough to actually put in the work.

The last time I did the work to finish a chapter fic I thought was at least decent, it was a pretty heavy flop except with my big bang artist partner and beta. That was back in the spring. And since then, I dunno. It's like I just cannot make myself do the work that is required to really put something out there that I cared a lot about in order for it to get the sting of being completely ignored even when I try to get friends and likeminded fandom people to look at it.

I feel like some people responded to the art that was posted on tumblr as part of the event who never got around to reading the fic.

And I know I'm being a baby because I've only finished like 1 or 2 of the other long fics that came out of that event, but I have been working on at least a few others. I just feel this rejection sensitivity thing.

Not only that, but the same thing happened when I did a SnowBaird Secret Santa thing last year. The person I got assigned to never actually came around and commented because they sort of ghosted the community it was in before the event concluded.

I know that we are all tired and worn down to a lot less than we were, but it makes me want to reassess how I seek connection with likeminded people, and I just don't know how.

I keep wondering if I should write shorter lighter or more encapsulated stuff due to the attention span and overwork problems people have, but I don't really know how to find the motivation for that anymore, either, and it makes me think that the era of fandom being a community and not a competition is kind of dead.

Friday's Comic

2025-11-21 00:14[personal profile] marycatelli posting in [community profile] girlgenius_lair
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Say -- what is that music?

The Dreen speculation is half right -- the thing got derailed.

Quiz, snow, sale

2025-11-20 22:27[personal profile] bunn
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 Our team won the monthly quiz at a local village hall. Such pride! I think everyone on the team had at least one 'nobody else knows this' question, which is always rewarding.  We won sugary treats which are very bad for us.  They were delicious. 

Today, it snowed. Most of Pembrokeshire seems to have been covered in a delightful white blanket, though down here by the water the snow quickly went to slush. 

Much hard work went into launching the Shop on the Borderlands winter sale (we decided to ditch the idea of Black Friday, which is kind of meaningless in the UK anyway, and go a week or so earlier.)   There was much rushing around putting books into piles and photographing them at top speed.

Then I forgot to clear the site cache before we sent out the newsletter yesterday saying the sale had begun, meaning that a lot of people saw an empty page of No Offers.  Oh well.  There has been a steady stream of sales today so it's all more or less worked out, though we're both rather worn by the effort of all the packing.  

october booklog

2025-11-20 21:21[personal profile] wychwood
wychwood: Rodney is surrounded by idiots (SGA - Rodney surrounded by idiots)
Pro-tip: reading two books called "The Seven [nouns] of Evelyn [surname]" at the same time is a bad idea and will lead to confusion.

The Commonweal books 2-5 - Graydon Saunders ) A very satisfying series; I look forward to the next book when it comes out!


114. A Desolation Called Peace - Arkady Martine ) I loved the first book, but found this one a slog for slightly inexplicable reasons.


115. The Trials of Life - David Attenborough ) Entertaining as ever.


117. Nettle and Bone - T Kingfisher ) I don't know if it's me or Kingfisher who has changed, but I don't enjoy these as much as I did. This is fine! But I used to find her books better than fine.


120. The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo - Taylor Jenkins Reid ) This was so much better than I had anticipated; I'm definitely looking out for her Fleetwood Mac book now.


121. DallerGut Dream Department Store - Miye Lee ) I enjoyed it enough that I kept reading, but I was glad it wasn't longer.


122. The Very Secret Society of Irregular Witches - Sangu Mandanna ) This was very fluffy and pleasant, but had just enough depth that I enjoyed it instead of getting annoyed.


123. Rivers of London: Deadly Ever After - Ben Aaronovitch, Celeste Bronfman, Andrew Cartmel, Jose Maria Beroy, and Jordi Escuin Llorach ) Not especially memorable, but fun enough.


124. The Village Library Demon-Hunting Society - CM Waggoner ) I really enjoyed this, and the way it's messing around with genre; I think I'd like to re-read it, and see how it feels when I know where it's going.


125. The Seven Deaths of Evelyn Hardcastle - Stuart Turton ) I suppose this is cleverly done, but it was all so loathsome I really had to drag myself through it, and by the time we found out all the answers I didn't even really care.


126. Translation State - Ann Leckie ) I liked this more on re-read, and I liked it quite a bit the first time! Just so many nice people doing their best, and complicated politics, and it's so good.


127. England - John Lewis-Stempel ) A generally solid nature writer; I don't know if I'll read more by him, but I did enjoy the English focus.


128. Leviathan Wakes - James SA Corey ) Much less space-opera-y than I had osmosed, but this was pretty gripping, and I'll definitely be reading the next book.


129. The Feud in the Chalet School - Elinor M Brent-Dyer ) this is solid as ever.


130. Phonogram vol 1: Rue Britannia - Kieron Gillen and Jamie McKelvie ) This is clearly well done, despite my somewhat mixed feelings; I feel like it's probably a must-read for actual Britpop fans, but even outside that there's still something good in there.


131. Testimony of Mute Things - Lois McMaster Bujold ) If you like this series, you'll enjoy this; I did. And it was nice to see baby Penric again!


132. Deeds of Youth - Elizabeth Moon ) I enjoy this world, and the stories she tells in it, but ultimately I think I mostly want more about the specific characters I already know and love! But I enjoyed these anyway.


133. Batgirls: One Way or Another - Becky Cloonan, Michael W Conrad, Jorge Corona, and Sarah Stern ) I have less patience for the actual High Stakes Superheroing than I used to, but I loved watching the three Batgirls working together. Delightful.


134. Stress in the Workplace - Howard Edwards ) The failure mode of satire is dull, as this book demonstrates capably.
l33tminion: Touch your wings and wonder if this is a dream (Wings)
I woke up this morning reminded by a dream of some nearby restaurants that had slipped my mind, with a sense that some were definitely gone and others were, well, I hadn't thought about them in a while. And as I tried to recall more of the details, I couldn't remember the names and the geography just didn't fit together. I'm sure some of the details are real, but I can't really parse out which or how it fits together. But some of those places I probably visited only in dream. And even there the urban geography has inexorably shifted.
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Following up on my post from Monday: [personal profile] adrian_turtle talked to a different advisor (also with SHINE, like the person we talked to Monday).



He told her that "CommonHealth" is a Medigap plan, which you can only enroll in if you are under 65 and on Medicare because you're disabled. They don't require you to have less than X amount of money or income, but the premiums are based on a percentage of your income, and for us would be significantly less than a standard Medigap plan. He urged her to apply by printing the form and sending it in with a cover letter saying that this is a CommonHealth application, because otherwise they might treat it as a MassHealth application, which is not what we'd be looking for.

Edited to add: the only part of this information that's relevant for me right now is the "special election period"--because I inherited money this year, while I could enroll in CommonHealth, it wouldn't save money and might cost more than a standard Medigap policy. I have made a calendar entry to check in one year, and in two years, to see if it makes sense then.

Standard Medicare Open Enrollment ends on Dec. 7th, making this seem urgent--especially if we want to trust it to the post office--but I remembered that the letter saying my current Medicare Advantage plan won't be offered next year said I therefore have more time to choose a new plan.

So, I opened a chat window at Medicare.gov, and ran into a weird bit of terminology. Open enrollment ends on Dec. 7th, but I have a "special election period" from Dec. 8 to the end of February. The agent wanted to make clear that if I don't choose a plan by Dec. 31st, I wouldn't have Part D drug coverage or a Medicare Advantage plan.

I then asked if the special election period also applied to Medigap, and they told me that Medigap doesn't have annual open enrollment, if you don't buy it within six months after starting on Medicare the private insurance companies don't have to sell it to you. At that point, I thanked him and said that Massachusetts has different rules, and I think I need to talk to someone from the state.
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"Could it be that (Superman) hides behind the darkest disguise of all? Could it be that he is a woman?"

"(...) What made you ask that?"

"Because he has compassion. He aids people in trouble. He helps the weak. "

It is possible the bad guy in The Secret of Superman has issues.
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People at /r/englishlearning need to stop saying "Song lyrics/poems don't have to be grammatical! Don't try to learn English through songs/poems! People just do whatever, ungrammatically, to fit the rhythm/mood/rhyme scheme!"

This may be true, I guess, but funnily enough it's never true when people say it. At least half the time, the quoted text isn't even archaic or nonstandard!

That said, I do like reading (most of the) comments in that subreddit. There's always something! Cut for appropriateness )

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This new Yeld 2E Bundle presents the 2024 Second Edition of The Magical Land of Yeld, the all-ages tabletop fantasy roleplaying game from Atarashi Games about young heroes (called Friends) finding their way home.

Bundle of Holding: Yeld 2E

Wednesday's Comic

2025-11-19 00:07[personal profile] marycatelli posting in [community profile] girlgenius_lair
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I'LL go

Now there's a pair to strike horror in the heart.

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